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Consider this a lighthearted amuse-bouche for your brain before we get serious. Sure, it might be groan-worthy—but hey, at least you’re getting your money’s worth, right? 😆
I think the brain is the most important organ in the body… but then again, look who’s telling me that! 🧠😂
Your Words Shape Your Reality: Why Self-Talk Matters More Than You Think
We’ve talked about this before, but it’s worth revisiting: the words you say to yourself matter. Your brain listens, believes, and acts on them. So, let’s cut the self-sabotage and start using that power for good.
Always Listening
I hear it all the time:
- “I’m such an idiot!”
- “I’m old and tired.”
- “I’m not a good leader.”
- “I could never do that.”
Sound familiar?
Your brain hears these too – and it believes you. What starts as a joke becomes your reality because your brain treats your words like commands.
Programming Your Brain
Meet your Reticular Activating System (RAS) – the brain’s bouncer. It filters what gets your attention. Tell your RAS something is important, and it will find it everywhere. Thinking of buying a Honda Accord? Suddenly, you see them everywhere.
Now imagine telling your RAS, “I’m a failure.”
Guess what it starts collecting evidence for? Yeah, not ideal.
Flip the Script
Good news: you are the author of the script of your own life. This means you can reprogram your brain.
Here’s how:
- Set one clear goal. (If everything is a priority, nothing is.)
- Write it down and keep it visible. Your RAS will stay locked in on it.
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Now… back to this post…
Silence the Lies
Once you have goals, it’s time to be on the lookout for obstacles… they are out there.
Pay attention to your negative self-talk. Look for phrases like:
- “I am…”
- “I’m just…”
- “I can’t…”
Once you spot them, flip them into affirmations. My Silencing the Lies exercise can help you turn those inner critic lies into truths that empower you.
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Your brain is a powerful ally when programmed right. Need help? I’m here to coach you through it. Download my Goal Success Quick Start Guide and let’s get started on building your best self – together.
I believe in you; let me help YOU believe in you!
This “Best of Operation Melt” post was originally published on 10/9/2022.
Meet Coach Tony
Tony Weaver is a master life coach, technologist, consultant, writer, and founder of Operation Melt.
He helps project managers and other left-brained high-achievers pursue their biggest goals.
Through free resources, personalized coaching, and his proven Project Manage Your Life system, Tony empowers clients to move their dreams from “someday” to success — one step at a time.
Learn more about Project Manage Your Life, the system my clients and I use to crush our goals, at OperationMelt.com/PMYL/
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