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This is your opportunity to get a taste of my Operation Melt coaching by asking me your most pressing questions about achieving your goals and personal growth.
Ask Coach Tony is where you’ll find answers, insights, and strategies to help you take actionable steps toward success – whether you’re just starting or looking to level up.
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How Do I Stop Hesitating?
Ever felt paralyzed by hesitation right before your dream opportunity?
Here’s an “Ask Coach Tony” question from someone experiencing just that:
Coach Tony: I’ve been presented with a job opportunity that might be my dream job. I’ve done all the legwork to ensure it’s legit and meets my financial and flexibility needs. Yet, I still can’t seem to say yes. How do I get over this hump and stop hesitating?
You’ve clearly done your due diligence – this upfront work minimizes risks and is a key part of any smart decision-making process. But here’s the twist: this isn’t about logic.
The root of your hesitation is emotion.
Your brain is wired for safety, not necessarily for chasing happiness. When something new and different appears, your brain flags it as a potential threat, clinging to the status quo to keep you safe.
Try this at home: two simple steps to challenge your fear
1. What’s the Worst That Can Happen?
- Pause and Reflect: Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen if I take this new job?”
- List the Risks: Write down all potential risks and plan how you’d handle them. Putting these on paper makes the unknown feel more manageable – and less threatening.
- Boost Your Confidence: Recognizing that you can overcome any challenge reinforces your ability to handle change.
2. It’s NOT Your Final Answer!
- Reframe Your Mindset: Remember, very few decisions in life are final. Choosing a new opportunity doesn’t lock you into a permanent path – you can always adjust course later.
- Ease the Pressure: Reduce the weight of the decision by reminding yourself that you’re simply taking the next step, not defining your entire future.
- Create a Daily Reminder: Write a note saying, “I will make good decisions today, and I can always change my mind tomorrow.” Place it somewhere you’ll see it daily, like your bathroom mirror, and read it out loud each day.
Try these steps, and you’ll likely find that the grip of fear begins to loosen. Congratulations on the new job opportunity – I have no doubt you’re going to shine!
But wait, there’s more!
Try these steps, and you’ll likely find that the grip of fear begins to loosen. Congratulations on taking this important step toward your new opportunity – I have no doubt you’re going to shine!
However, if you’re still feeling held back or the door to new opportunities seems a little too locked, remember that you don’t have to go it alone. Let’s conquer those fears together. As a certified life coach and a goal success ninja, I’d be honored to help you conquer your fears and crush your goals. Learn more about my Operation Melt coaching services here.
Need help creating goals that actually work? Download your free copy of my Goal Success Quick Start Guide and start building a future on your terms.
I believe in you; let me help YOU believe in you!
This “Best of Operation Melt” post was originally published on 11/27/2022.
Meet Coach Tony
Tony Weaver is a master life coach, technologist, consultant, writer, and founder of Operation Melt.
He helps project managers and other left-brained high-achievers pursue their biggest goals.
Through free resources, personalized coaching, and his proven Project Manage Your Life system, Tony empowers clients to move their dreams from “someday” to success — one step at a time.
Learn more about Project Manage Your Life, the system my clients and I use to crush our goals, at OperationMelt.com/PMYL/
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